After years of getting to know one another, you realized this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. So, you saved up for the perfect ring, planned the most romantic occasion, and popped the question. Much to your satisfaction, they said yes! Now that the moment has passed, you’re probably wondering what comes next. Continue reading for some advice.
Getting engaged is a precious milestone in your relationship. Don’t be so quick to get married that you don’t allow yourself time to enjoy where you are now. It’s time to celebrate! Plan an engagement party or small gathering with loved ones to share your news. If you’d prefer to keep it more intimate, there’s also the option to go out to dinner or take a short vacation just to be in each other’s company.
Talk – A Lot
Marriage is a serious commitment that shouldn’t be entered into lightly. While the two of you have been together for a while now, you must talk. There’s a lot that needs to discuss about your views on marriage and what you see for your future. Having conversations about these topics now reduces the likelihood of getting into an argument later. Express your feelings on things like finances, careers, raising a family, where you want to live, and your expectations from your partner. Some topics may be easier to deal with than others, but effective listening and compromising can help you resolve all areas.
There’s a common misconception that therapy is only for people with problems. On the contrary, going to counseling can also be a preventative measure. Couples can avoid a lot of issues in their marriage by going to premarital counseling before walking down the aisle. Whether you prefer a religious leader or certified therapists, the sessions can give you an idea of what marriage is like. They can also help you resolve any issues or concerns you have and provide you with tools to get through some of your most challenging times.
Start Thinking About A Date
When you’re both ready to start planning a wedding, take it slow. Remember, there’s no magic date you have to be hitched by. Start with something simple like deciding on a date. Think about your personal lives and careers to determine when the best time might be. Then select a date that’s unique to you. It can be during your favorite season, a particular moment in your relationship, or an easy number sequence.
Design a Wedding Website
Now is the perfect time to start looking at wedding websites. You don’t have to make the site live until you’re ready, but it’s a fun activity to do together as a couple. It gets your juices flowing about your wedding planning timeline, the type of wedding you want, the theme, decor, venue, and so much more. As you start ironing out details, you can add them to the site. Upload photos and videos that showcase your love story and give guests an idea of who you are as a team. When you’re ready, it’s as simple as going live.
There’s nothing wrong with taking a few months or even years to have fun, learn each other, and prepare your lives for marriage. Whether you want to take trips, start businesses, find a new house, get involved in a passion project, or hang with friends and party like it’s 1988, enjoy every moment of it.
Most couples assume that they must start preparing to walk down the aisle the moment they get engaged. However, the truth is, it’s not a race. After you popped the question, take some time to simply enjoy the here and now before you get tangled up in wedding plans. Celebrate the occasion, talk more, go to counseling, and have fun. When the time is right, you can select a date, create a wedding website and begin planning the ceremony and reception of your dreams.