If you’ve been in a stable, healthy relationship for a while, then you probably already know that over time, things can start to get comfortable between the two of you. It can get a bit familiar. Routine, even. And while that’s not necessarily a bad thing, it can slowly start to drain the spark out of a once-exciting relationship. While that intimacy that starts to show up when you drop pretenses and let your hair down can be amazing for your personal connection with your partner, it can also be a little bit…shall we say, boring?

Fortunately, a happy relationship doesn’t have to be bland or blasé. Whether you’ve only been dating for a few months, or you’ve been happily married for over a decade by now, there are a few ways you can sneak in a little bit of extra excitement and intrigue back into your relationship. If you’re tired of staying at home on a Friday night in your PJs and you want to spice things up a bit on the dating front once more, why not try one of these four date night ideas? Who knows — you just might also learn a thing or two about yourself and your partner, too, in the process!

Try a Cooking Class

Hear us out before you jump ship here. While having a few yummy recipes in your regular rotation is fine and dandy for those stressful weekday nights, taking a cooking class with your partner is on a whole ‘nother level altogether. Find a cooking class that lets you try out an exotic cuisine you’ve never tried before, pass a glass of wine back and forth, and don’t be shy about spooning samples of your concoction into your partner’s mouth for tasting. Not only will you fill up your stomachs, but you’ll also fill up your hearts and your excitement meters when you finally get to tuck into your meal.

Jump Out of an Airplane

Well, we just went from zero to one hundred in no time flat, didn’t we? Now, here’s a quick psychology lesson for you, but did you know that your body can’t differentiate a racing heart from (safe, controlled!) fear and from falling in love? That means that if you’re starting to think that your relationship has gotten dull, there’s no better way than to fall in love all over again than by literally falling in love with your partner. Of course, we’re talking about parachuting here, and tandem jumping has been shown to be both incredibly safe and exciting. So… what are you waiting for?

Catch a Thrilling Movie

While horror movies may not be everyone’s cup of tea, there’s something to be said about cozying up with your partner behind the big screen and burying your face into their sleeve when things start to get tense. And if jumping out of a plane isn’t your jam (and we’re not here to shame anyone), you can still get your heart racing with the right kind of movie. Even if horror movies make you feel somewhat squicky, a fast-paced action movie or thriller can still hit that same spot. And you know the best part of this idea is? The awesome conversation you have afterward, dissecting the movie’s plot.

Have a Wild Night In

Let us set the scene for you: the kids are at grandma’s, you and your partner have the whole place to yourself, and you don’t feel like going out tonight. Well, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to have a lame evening in, either. In fact, there are a few ways you can spice things up — without even needing to leave your house. Heck, you don’t even have to leave your bedroom, if you catch our drift. This is a great opportunity for you and your partner to try a new technique, introduce a new massaging lotion, or even experiment with an anal plug. Remember to take it slow, though, and always respect one another’s boundaries.

The fact is, being in a stable, healthy, and loving relationship doesn’t have to be unpleasant or tedious. Having someone you can lean on and trust during the good times and the bad can be one of the most fulfilling, rewarding things you can ever experience. Even if things start to feel dull or rote at home, it doesn’t mean that your relationship is on the rocks, either. It just means that you trust each other enough to really be your true selves. However, by trying any of these four fun date night ideas, you can have both the excitement and the security you deserve!